Resources
Conflict management videos
Conflict styles: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0-TfLvMk_kQ
Conflict De-escalation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KM9gaoN6-fo
Conflict management resources
NVC (Non-Violent Communication): https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/learn-nonviolent-communication/nvc-de-escalation/
Communication
Bill Eddy (BIFF Communication): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q2kCw3VovTI
The Law Center (and Bill Eddy) series: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aN0mIr84yeI&list=PLkj28_4yhpqamRpPfaeul4UUmvdvLxWTM&index=2
Emotional management
Dr Christian Conte: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZI7VjwvZx8
The Trauma Foundation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZdIQRxwT1I0&t=22s
Re-origin (calm in 60 seconds): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U3wf2x2vCLk
Boundaries
The Divorced Woman’s Guide: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwKquC0hvl0
Mediation
The ADR Centre: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7nRf7LO2iMM&t=101s
FairWay Resolution: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORhpznY589k
What happens at a Family Court Hearing without a lawyer
Part 1
Ministry of Justice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WvH8dEYLTC0
Te reo Māori: https://youtu.be/z7ci3qmbBoY?si=v8j0J8mvLQ6ADqpI
Part 2
Ministry of Justice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aEk6Z8RNVmU
Te reo Māori: https://youtu.be/VhO11j7d_Jw?si=-xHLb-X0Gifie9Oh
Children and Separation
Ministry of Justice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjp7uhkW4wI
Watch Relate: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cfLWOARZekw
Maggie Dent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=msNV4Cd0G2E
MLL Helsinki: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-S1RVlSSk2o
Dr. Lenne’ Hunt: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vtoyVteJda4
Kids First Center: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cw37ovj9BDk
Finances – Getting help with your budget
Budgeting Template (excel spreadsheet)
NZ Government: https://www.govt.nz/browse/family-and-whanau/financial-help-for-your-family/getting-help-budget/
Work and Income: https://check.msd.govt.nz/ Freephone: 0800 559 009
Inland Revenue (Child Support): Freephone: 0800 221 221
FDR MEDIATION brochures
Fairway:
https://www.justice.govt.nz/assets/Documents/Decisions/Fair-Way-FDR-Brochure-Eng.pdf
https://www.justice.govt.nz/assets/Documents/Decisions/Fair-Way-FDR-brochure-Te-reo-Maori.pdf
Family Works
https://www.justice.govt.nz/assets/Documents/Decisions/PSC-FDR-brochure.pdf
Family Dispute Resolution Centre
https://fdrc.co.nz/parenting-and-guardianship-fdr-mediation/resources/fdr-mediation-brochure/
FIND A PRACTITIONER FOR FDR AND PTS (Parenting Through Separation)
https://www.justice.govt.nz/family/care-of-children/parenting-arrangements/cant-agree-on-parenting-arrangements/reach-an-agreement-outside-of-court/search-for-a-service-to-help-with-parenting-arrangements/
Useful numbers and websites:
Community Law Centre: https://communitylaw.org.nz/our-law-centres/
Justice.govt.nz:
Parenting plan
Parenting plan workbook:
https://www.justice.govt.nz/assets/Documents/Publications/MOJ0504_Making-a-parenting-plan-workbook.pdf
If you want a copy sent to you, freephone the Ministry of Justice on 0800 224 733.
Apply for family or civil legal aid
Community Law Centre(external link)
Citizens Advice Bureau(external link)
Find a legal aid lawyer(external link)
Family legal aid application form
Civil legal aid application form
Books
Sarah Catherall: How to Breakup Well – Surviving and Thriving After Separation (Link)